Daughters’ Day.. Time to Rethink

Posted: September 25, 2011 in Author's choice, Issues, Love, Social problems
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The moment you read this, one more was killed. I am not talking about a tiger, not about the humming bird…
I am talking about the creature who doesn’t even know that you’re gonna kill her. And believe me, it’s you on whom she had the trust of her life.
I am talking about your own daughter.

Sometimes, being a boy, I think how tough it would be to become a girl. When she is not even born, female foeticide is there, life in danger. When she is born, child abuse is there in India, life in danger. When she grows up, in places like Delhi and UP, walking 10 meters safely is an achievement, again, life is in danger. When she is married, all depends on how the in laws treat her. Daily we hear cases of dowry and honor killing, life in danger.

Sometimes I just think, is life of a soldier easier than life of a woman in India? Or shouldn’t commando training be made compulsory for girls the moment they are born. Even if what I said is executed, u can’t help the child who isn’t even born.
I am not going to bother you with the stats that how many girls are left per 1000 boys or how many female foeticides take place daily. Neither I’ll bore you by saying the same old things. I just want to ask a question, as you’re aware enough to read this post, are you bold enough to take a step against it? (Not the post but female foeticide and the bad condition of females in our country)

I don’t have suggestions for you on how to do this… what I do is to boldly speak against people who do this, spread messages via blogs and Facebook and also paste some related posters in areas near my home. Works there but you can think of better.
25th September is nationally observed as the Daughters’ day and just like our independence day we celebrate it for a day and get back to our normal selves. Not that doing that with independence day is right, that is infact even more wrong, but that’s a whole different topic. You will be thrashed about that sometime later. Today lets make you understand whats wrong with you.

So all of you think you’re against female foeticide and you’re done. You respect females a lot. But honestly (To all the youngsters reading it), how many of you have never been a part of eve teasing?  Impossible to say that never, so yes, that too is a part of exploitation and abuse.
Those who are married, if you didn’t take dowry don’t think you scored a clean sheet.  Though it’s a little rare in modern societies but by my experiences and what I’ve seen, it won’t be too much to ask, how many of you have never beaten your wife. Yes, it’s a bitter truth that even when we’re living in such a modern society, home violence is one of the majorly committed crimes.

Apart from that, if your father or mother is doing that to their daughter in law, believe me, law doesn’t allow you to sit and watch or keep quiet. Things like this are just like termites eating the culture of our country. A place where we worship goddesses, a place where we have given the supreme position to mother and a cow is considered a holy animal. If we let these things happen, what are we? Traitors won’t be a bad word there.
These days, traditional crimes like dowry killing, infanticide and other related things have decreased in number (Though I am sad to say that this is not the case in our political and business capitals where an increase in rape and kidnapping cases is observed) but these aren’t the only things we need to fight. Other small stuff that remains unnoticed needs to be talked about. It’s the 21st century and now the time has come that we need to have equal status for female in real world too.
I said real world because I do know females rock when it comes to likes on Facebook (Sorry, humor is my thing)

Like others I won’t be presenting before you the names of famous female achievers like Kalpana chawla and saina nehwal along with history makers like Rani laxmibai and Sarojini naidu. But since you know those names, don’t you think we need more of them. And I don’t think killing or kidnapping girls is gonna help that unless you give them special training after kidnapping. So if you’re not a part of the crime, raise your voice. Sitting quietly ain’t helping. Try to show the world that what you think is right and evil needs to be eliminated. Report it to the law if you see something like this.
I would love to end with the hindi lines I read in my childhood (A female teacher taught me)

“Ek nahi do do matrayen, Nar (नर) se bhari Nari (नारी)”

Hope u liked it. If you didn’t, atleast follow what’s right. That’s all I want.
thanks

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Comments
  1. Pramod says:

    very well penned. very concerned post.

  2. some comparisons drawn were really remarkable…”Sometimes I just think, is life of a soldier easier than life of a woman in India? Or shouldn’t commando training be made compulsory for girls the moment they are born.”
    .. not a crap post. Highly appreciated. 🙂

  3. tripti goel says:

    this is just awesome.
    i seriously have goosebumps…though the humor is there but it is necessary to make the people understand the seriousness of this. this is not just a topic, its a reality which everyone knows still they don’t know that how difficult it is to be a daughter, a wife, a mother and specially a girl…
    a heartful thanks to you shubham for what you’ve written…
    i am proud to be a girl…

  4. aayushmnit says:

    nice one yar…..this is really serious one from ur side…i appreciate it(like i always do..)….aur salein mai kabhi eve teasing mai involve nai hua…..bolne uar karne mai farak hota hai..!!:D:D anyways n1

  5. “Ek nahi do do matrayen, Nar (नर) se bhari Nari (नारी)” superb ending! this will be my status!!

  6. shailesh says:

    as usual “u r awesome”…
    This time i liked the whole 🙂
    (ab se kuch bi likhwana hoga to tujh se hi likhwaunga)

  7. Gargi Trehan says:

    I have read many articles on condition of women in today’s scenario but believe me i have never gone through such different description about the same age old discussion……i even made my mom to read this and she was simply spellbound by this never read before article and shared it with her friends saying that gen-x is the only way to make progress in all aspects….keep it up…!!
    @shubham you possess great capability of writing with a DIFFERENCE.

    • shubhamc21 says:

      Thanks a lot.. nice to have a good review from your mother too.. this article was read not only by my friends but elders too.. that increases my responsibility.. thanks a lot again 🙂

  8. shilpi says:

    speechless 🙂

  9. i had to cmnt on dis..! truely hv read a lot of stuff over it..n also wrkd a lot fr der help….but presentng dis huge issue in such simple wrds wid d ting of humour..(although nt req i felt) coz d article was catchy anyhw…dats d style u use….nice one…teeuly appreciated especially coz i came outta a guy! 😀 XP

  10. haha! lol..u seem so confused by all m cmnts! 😛 hillarious it is 😛 🙂 anyhw…well done! 🙂

  11. […] one so let’s switch to the subject straight away. This is my third (kinda) serious post after Daughter’s day: Time to rethink and Republic Day. Yes, I am serious on all special days (except for the valentine day when girls […]

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